Guest Blog: An Interview with an Infertility and Parenting Mental Health Therapist
Introduction:
We’re doing another guest blog this week - featuring an interview with our own Emily Muizelaar at Mountain Brow Counselling. In this blog article, I have asked Emily a series of questions to help us get to know her better and how she practices as a Registered Social Worker and Psychotherapist at our practice.
Emily has been a practicing social worker for over 10 years now. In her own words: “Hi I'm Emily! I'm a Registered Social Worker & Psychotherapist, a mom of 2 daughters, and an amateur baker. I love working with individuals on their personal journeys - whatever stage they are at. I am passionate about supporting individuals with perinatal mental health including: family planning, fertility struggles, losses, pregnancy, and post-partum challenges. I also love working with individuals who have experienced trauma. I am a flexible, eclectic practitioner which means that I use lots of different approaches and strategies to offer people individualized support. I love being in nature, and love offering walk and talk therapy as one unique option. Other things to know about me - I love dogs, horses, and used to be a competitive dragon-boater!”
Why did you decide to become a therapist and specifically why perinatal mental health? What’s your favourite part about your role?
I come to this field with lived experience of infertility and pregnancy loss myself. It informs my approach, and allows me to have deep compassion and understanding of people’s experiences. My role is meaningful to me as I get to help other’s make room for their own grief and pain, as well as find healing and hope.
What type of goals do you support clients with? How does your approach or style differ from another?
I am here to support individuals with whatever goals are their priority. Whether that be processing grief or traumatic experiences, learning to manage their stress, exploring the transition into parenthood, or managing their anxiety or mood concerns. I am an eclectic practitioner who pulls from many therapy modalities, as well as my own personal experiences. I try to be authentic, use humour during conversation, and be flexible with each individual’s needs.
How has your motherhood journey impacted your professional practice?
Like many others, my journey to motherhood was not as I expected. It was full of uncertainty, waiting, stress, and grief. It was also full of support, deepening of relationships, and moments of gratitude and hope. These experiences have shaped me as a person, mother, and social worker. This deeply informs how I approach my role as a support to others; hoping they will find a safe place on their own journey.
How would someone know that they should book an appointment with you? What would you say to someone who is hesitant but struggling with their mental health and wellbeing?
I would say that reaching out for support can be intimidating, anxiety provoking and also so brave of you! I would say that you are welcome to try therapy and see if you find it meaningful for you. Remember that at the end of the day we’re just two people having a conversation together.
Are there any specific mantras or coping strategies that you’d share?
A quote for grief I always return to is “Do not hurry as you walk with grief; it does not help the journey. Walk slowly, pausing often” – Shane Claiborne.
I would encourage individuals to treat themselves with self-compassion in the midst of their difficult experiences. In my experience we must learn to take care of ourselves as whole beings in order to find wellness, healing, and balance.
You also support parents across the perinatal period. If a mom felt overwhelmed in parenting, what would you suggest they do in the moment to regulate themselves?
Remind yourself that you’re human – and not alone in your overwhelm!
2. Take a drink of really cold water
3. Take some slow breaths, or get outside for some fresh air
4. Find some movement for your body
5. Look for a moment of gratitude in your day – (small things count!)
6. Connect with a friend or family member for an encouraging word.
What is your favourite form of self-care?
Movement of any sort. Whether that is dancing in the kitchen with my kids, riding my bike, lifting weights or walking with a friend. I find movement is grounding, often fun, and necessary to keep my stress manageable.
If someone was interested in learning more about your practice and how you can support them, what should they do next?
You are more than welcome to take a look at my bio and read more about me, my approach, and personal experiences. If you would like to have a brief conversation to see if we may be a good fit or have any questions, please reach out to book a free 20-minute consultation call. I look forward to hearing from you!
