Dispelling Myths: Common Misconceptions About Postpartum Life
Introduction
When it comes to postpartum life, the truth is often clouded by well-meaning advice, outdated beliefs, and unrealistic expectations. From social media snapshots of “bouncing back” to myths passed down through generations, new parents are bombarded with ideas about what life should look like after childbirth. But the reality? It's often more nuanced—and more human—than the glossy narratives suggest. In our practice in Hamilton, Ontario, our therapists have a great deal of experience in all aspects related to postpartum, and they are available to assist you today.
Let’s shed light on some of the most common misconceptions about postpartum life and what’s really going on behind the scenes.
Myth #1: You'll Instantly Bond with Your Baby
Reality: While some parents feel an overwhelming connection right away, others don’t—and that’s completely normal. Bonding can be gradual, developing over days, weeks, or even months. Sleep deprivation, hormonal shifts, or traumatic birth experiences can delay this process, and none of it makes you a “bad” parent.
Myth #2: You’ll Feel Happy All the Time
Reality: The “baby blues” affect up to 80% of new mothers in the first couple of weeks. Postpartum depression and anxiety are also common and can appear days or months after birth. The emotional rollercoaster is real—and it’s okay to ask for help. Mental health is just as important as physical recovery.
Myth #3: Breastfeeding Comes Naturally
Reality: For many, breastfeeding is a learned skill—not an instinct. It can be painful, frustrating, and emotionally taxing in the beginning. Some mothers can't breastfeed at all due to medical reasons or personal choice. Fed is best, and guilt has no place in the feeding journey.
Myth #4: You’ll Bounce Back Physically in No Time
Reality: The “snapback” culture promotes a harmful myth. Your body spent nine months growing a human—it deserves time, care, and rest to heal. Recovery can take weeks or months, and no two postpartum journeys look the same. Stretch marks, loose skin, or weight changes don’t mean failure—they mean transformation.
Myth #5: Everyone Has It All Together
Reality: Social media often shows the highlights, not the hard nights or messy mornings. Most new parents struggle with doubt, exhaustion, and the learning curve of caring for a newborn. Comparing yourself to others—especially through a screen—only adds pressure. You’re doing better than you think.
Myth #6: You Should Be Able to Do It Alone
Reality: Postpartum life isn’t meant to be a solo mission. Many cultures have traditions that surround new parents with support—meals, rest, and community. Don’t hesitate to ask for help from family, friends, or professionals. There’s strength in support, not weakness.
Myth #7: Once the Baby Arrives, Your Relationship Will Stay the Same
Reality: A baby changes everything—including your relationship. Communication, intimacy, and division of labour often need re-negotiating. It's normal for couples to face tension and adjustment in this new phase. Patience, empathy, and honest conversations are key.
Final Thoughts
Postpartum life is a major transition filled with highs, lows, and everything in between. Dispelling the myths around it helps create space for grace, compassion, and a more realistic picture of what new parenthood really looks like. Every experience is unique, and there's no one “right” way to navigate this season.
If you're in the thick of it—hang in there. The hard moments don’t last forever, and you're not alone. Click here, and one of our experienced therapists can assist you through the most challenging parts of postpartum.
